Saturday, March 26, 2011

Dragon Lady

OK, I apologize for not writing in a few days.  Recently uncharacteristic of me. 
It was a combination of not much new to talk about, and not sure IF I should talk about other things.

Well, if you read my Church (Heavy) post
you learned of my mother in law "encouraging" me to go back to church.  This proves how naive I truly am.  I knew better than to trust a snake.  But the way she sugar coats everything with compliments and concern, I let my guard down.  I confided information about mine and my husband's personal life that he had worked VERY hard to keep from her.  She KNEW that if she couldn't get information out of him, she could out of me.  And with him deployed, it was her perfect chance.

She started calling daily and I'd get 7-10 long emails from her a day as well.  I'd told her my counselor of over 3 years was Lutheran, and boy did that just make (my counselor) the devil.  She MUST be giving me bad councel because she's not a member of the TRUE church. (and then proceeded looooong lectures on the subject).
My mother in law's horridness is probably not going to come through this blog very well, because I don't want to get into it, just believe me when I say, she is VERY manipulative.  THRIVES on controlling people, and has been doing it ALL of my husband's life. 
The fact that I "ALLOW" my husband to be who he is and let him be, just angers her to no end, because it is the exact opposite of her. 

So....yesterday, let's just say.....shit hit the fan.
My husband has told me repeatedly he would tell her to leave me alone, and after I told him about her latest plot, he'd had enough.  He wrote her a harsh email (harsh but deserved) about how she is now OUT of our lives.  She'd been warned over and over and over to butt out, and she just couldn't. 
She plays mind games, and lays on guilt trips HEAVILY.   
So, as SOON as she got it, I got over a dozen phone calls on my cell and home phone.  I was expecting them, and did not answer any. 
So, I started getting voice mails, pleading, asking what I said (or someone else said) to anger my hubby so.  Then I got emails saying how she doesn't hate me, only tried to be my friend, why is he sooo angry with her?????  (she's good, she's REALLY good).

Needless to say, all this drama, and KNOWING how this had to be effecting my hubby, I was getting stressed out.  I KNEW he wasn't sleeping, cuz I know him.
Everytime she'd call or email or whatever, my nerves would go haywire, and I'd get riled up again.
Well.....its probably not a huge surprise, but I am a stress eater.
I ate a bunch (well for me) of spicy doritos, followed by a mini dove.  Wow, talk about a stomach ache.
Later that night, I had ice cream.  (this is all leftover food from my hubby).  MORE stomach ache.  I threw it out, but took a few bites.
Depression, and over all ichiness kicked in.  It was just not a good thing.  Nothing filled that void of helplessness I was feeling. 
Thanks to a friend, I was able to process some, and didn't do too much damage, but I'm disappointed in myself none-the-less.

Today, my husband got online, sent me the 5 LONG emails she'd sent him throughout the night.
I sent him mine, and we discussed the situation.
I told him how I felt responsible, because I'd told him about her in the first place, and he emphasized it wasn't my fault, its been a long time coming. 
She is to be OUT of our lives.  She has burned her bridge.  This is a good thing.
So, I feel better, knowing how he feels about it all.

Okay, no more talk on evil things. 
I bought a mini treadmill the other day.  It needs a new fuse, so I got it super cheap, but for now it works as a manual operated one.  And I found a place for it in the living room! Haha!!
I've been working out a lot.  I have the stamina to last a full hour or longer now.  I'm quite shocked.
I bought the Pussycat Dolls workout, tried it out on my own, then again with my friend. 
It's really fun.  Teaches you how to get your sexy on, and is a decent cardio workout.

Yesterday, I went thrift store shopping, and found a bunch of VHS workout videos.  No clue if they work, but we'll see.  I'm gonna try the Tae Bo today.  Last time (years ago) I tried it, it kicked my butt, but was a heck of a workout!

I don't know if I mentioned my dilemma with the scale-  my nutritionist's expensive scale was lower than my home scale, so I didn't know which to go by.  I obviously wanted the lower one, but it threw off following my home one.  So, I am letting myself catch up.  I've probably lost another pound or two, but now the home scale says what the nutritionist scale did, so I'll just go with it.  Simpler. 

OK, I know this has been long, so I'll go for now.  I may write again later.
As for going to church tomorrow, I'm just not sure if I can do it. 
I am trying to go get my hair cut though!

Here's what I want!!!




Angela said...

She's psycho! Have you blocked her on your email and cell phones? You can make it so you don't have to see the crap she's sending you.

Manda said...

She's calling from Australia, so it comes in as Unavailable or Out Of Area. I don't think I can block that.....
She swears in her emails she'll never call me again, so we'll see if I have to be more drastic. Hubby changed his email, I have not.

B Lu said...

She sounds so much like my foster mother. We erased them from our lives many years ago. Very controlling. It didn't help that we rented a house from them 2 doors down from my foster father's church. Now that was fun!!! We never ever heard from them, even when I had the kids UNLESS we missed church. We moved an hour away and got a call saying, "I can't believe you wouldn't come to your father's church." I said, "I didn't know it was his church, I go to the Lord's church." We found a wonderful church about 20 minutes away. I am now the church secretary and enjoy it so much! I wish you the best and do hope you find a nice church, I think it helps to fellowship with others of like faith!